We’ve all heard them—the songs where a woman comes for another woman because she’s “taking her man.” Jill Scott’s Ya Gettin’ in the Way. Beyoncé’s Ring the Alarm. Monica’s So Gone. It’s a whole playlist of pain aimed not at the man who broke the commitment, but at the woman who “dared to want him too.” The music is soulful, the vocals are fire—but the message? It’s poison wrapped in a melody.

We all have that one song that makes us sing at the top of our lungs in the car or cry into our wine glass at midnight. And let’s be honest—some of the most powerful voices in music, women we adore, have given us anthems that sound beautiful but carry a heavy message...